I get tons of emails with various requests. Majority of them are people who are complete beginners and ask for a mentorship. There was a time where I was very often online and easy to get in contact with, but from some time “I don’t offer personal guidance” anymore – as stated on my contact page. However I still get lots of those requests…
I found an amazing article that can help you understand the problem of finding. But first I wanted to explain something.
On a daily basis I’m a business owner and that demands lot of time and energy so I rarely update my site lately. In the past I was very focused on spiritual learning but finally the time had come to put it all in practice. Since then I’m very focused on my real life goals and my online presence is a small fraction of what it used to be. My site should help others to get to the similar point – where you are independent, strong, driven, focused and conscious creator of your life. In order to do that, one need to stop just learning but to take ACTION AND LEARN IN DOING.
I want to be successful, happy and powerful as any other satanists I met, so I work hard to get that. I’m very happy and satisfied of my life and I already achieved a lot, but there are still tons of things I want to get. Between my work that I love, trainings (jogging, gym), helping out a bit at home, free time (spending time with friends, family, going hiking, watching shows I love, reading good articles, books and… working – yes in my free time I am driven to do things I couldn’t find time during usual work hours, but I keep it balanced with other areas of my life to avoid workaholic trap), I have now little time to spend online, reading and answering emails, writing new articles. Being a mentor for someone means to sacrifice my energy, time and experience. With all that requests I get, I had to have 100x more time to be able to answer.
There are people who focus solely on learning others and everything else doesn’t matter but I’m not one of them. I love helping out and teaching others but I love more to achieve goals and mold my life. I want to earn more money, I want knowledge and experience in business that will allow me to do lot of amazing things. I want to enjoy life to the fullest!
Now back to the article I red. It is a business article but just as in spiritual development, people in business seek connections, mentors that will bring them to the next level quicker then they would do on their own. It’s a great thing but you must remember, those worthy of your attention, those who already archived a lot are doers and their time is extremely valuable.
Or I could quote the article I’ve been mentioning:
“Because if your potential mentor as good as you’re hoping, their time is going to be in high demand. Every minute of theirs is incredibly valuable.
Simply put, they have more to lose than you do. So why should they assume all the risk and commit their time to helping you, when they’ve seen no benefit?
To get help, you need be helpful.
Make it a habit to reach out to successful people and offer them your help, with no expectation of anything in return.“
The whole article is available to read HERE.
Business and spiritual guidance are a bit different things so not all observations from the article are easy adapted. Satanists are mostly online community and we live in different places across the globe so brining value to someone is not as easy.
While answering questions of people who already set foot on the path is easy and satisfying, there are lot of people who didn’t get the very basics and yet ask for mentorship. But how could I even consider spending my time on someone who was too lazy to learn those basics? Some are just confused as to where to start and where to look for those basics but nevertheless basics are easy accessible. Just follow your interest and learn what you find most exciting at the moment. There is no universal walkathrough – every spiritual path is different. However lazy asses are as common as mushrooms after the rain – they usually write one liners (why to spend too much energy writing and trying to connect or get to know each other?) and bluntly say : I want, I need, give me. No effort but grandiose wishes. It’s not going to work. I won’t spent my time on answering on that.
So how could one expect a mentorship from me? To be honest, I don’t know. My time is valuable and becomes more worth with time and other person must bring equal value or something that I really want. It’s not easy to do online and that is why I say “I don’t offer personal guidance”.
In business people rarely keep up counseling others for longer periods – businessmen expect others to be independent and smart to learn quickly, so just few talks could bring enormous help to other business and help to set the right direction. The same should be in spiritual guidance. Long term mentorship online is hardly possible. Unfortunately spiritual problems are the same as personal problems and people have troubles to get pass them so quickly hence longer support is needed.
I do answer posts of people who already are past basics, of people who already prove that they achieved something and they need a little help on specific matter, so they don’t take lot of my time and I can be sure my time won’t be wasted on them.
Unfortunately because I don’t have much time for my online activity, It has come to this that people are waiting months for my replays and now I decided to not answer people who I feel are not worth of my time – it’s a subjective judgment call but I have to filter those emails somehow. I can’t afford to answer them all. I would like to be fair and answer all emails but my life and time is more important to me so I have to ignore some mails. That egoistic stand is something that I advise to you too. It’s not just emails that are not worth of my time but also those where I can’t help too much or require too of my time to answer. Besides postponing my answer too long makes my advise already outdated.
This is valid also to my facebook profile, where I also get many messages. I just can’t cope with them all and I can’t answer them all. Usually if I can replay quickly, I do it, if I need to take my time, I leave it for later.
Now, that I read ALL EMAILS but I just can’t answer them all (in time). Even devil is busy 😉 so you need to able help yourself first to get his attention.